Loneliness is divided into ten grades, one is a person to go to the supermarket, two is a person to eat, three is a person to drink coffee...... Today, we're talking about the hero, 8 years old, who has reached five - a person to eat hot pot!
29 evening, a Tang Qianqian, I respect you is a man ". In the online crazy pass, roughly meaning: before the first day of school, 20 Yuan Tang money kids mother left, he hides more than 100 gift money a person to eat Hot pot...... .
Tang Qianqian children order, methodically point is the Chongqing old hot pot will be the point of food, delicious not expensive, palm fire is more like a model, completely a pair of "old rivers and lakes" appearance. After dinner for two hours, he was in every direction of the stool......
According to Tang's mother, this is the second time the child is at home alone. Usually high security awareness. She does not worry too much about her plans. For the child's experience, she neither encouraged nor criticized, but led him to go out alone and pay more attention to safety.
As a parent, taking care of children can not do everything pro - Li, it may be because of work, or other reasons can not be separated. So it is very important to cultivate children's independent consciousness.
So, how do we develop our children's independent abilities?Appropriate to refuse the child, not everything
Many parents have not let their children lose at the starting line "on the concept of love, children see things or what others have, as long as he asked, regardless of price, whether the utility is bought it.
Such a long period of time, will let the children think, everything as long as the parents say, parents will be able to meet themselves, cause the child strong dependence psychology.
In order to cultivate children's independence, as a parent, not responsive to children, parents must learn to avoid the unreasonable demands of some children.
At the same time, when children can do things independently, or children to listen to the views of parents to buy things no longer insist, parents can pay tribute to the child, let the children as long as they do not know that they do not depend on the unreasonable, and others will get affirmation.
Let the child take responsibility for his actions
Usually, a child does something dishonorable, and neither does his parents. When you hear people say their children: "do not know how parents educate their children", "I really want to see what his parents look like."". Therefore, parents should let their children learn to take responsibility for their actions and avoid making the same mistakes.
Only in this way can children not be self centred, strengthen their responsibilities to others, and be responsible for what they have done. Train a child to be a responsible and responsible person. To allow children to be responsible for their own behavior, it should start from small things, training children's sense of responsibility.
When your child hits others, you must educate the child, no matter under what circumstances, hits a person is wrong, must be responsible to others, cannot always think other people's mistake, oneself is right. In addition, when the child accidentally broke something, parents should not only love their children have not been injured, more is to educate children for everything to be responsible, to avoid making mistakes again next time.
To cultivate a responsible child, it is necessary to teach children from childhood, everything should first find problems from themselves. Tell the child that the weak blame the mistakes on others and the society, and the strong will look for problems from themselves first, improve themselves and improve themselves.
A child who dares to admit that wrestling is his fault, is a brave child, a child who dares to admit his mistakes, is a child who dares to take responsibility. When the child grows up, it will be the pride of his parents.
Practice making your child's own decisions
To make children independent, parents should trust their children, let them grow, and practice their own ability to make decisions. Let children from their childhood "what they can do it yourself" consciousness, in the choice to give children autonomy.
Parents can enhance their children's ability and confidence to overcome their difficulties, and help them develop their sense of independence. As children grow older, parents develop a good sense of their own decisions in the face of difficulties, which can help children understand themselves and strengthen their ability to defeat.
When parents choose classes for children, you can discuss with your child more, encourage children to talk about their favorite things, give a few options for children to choose, encourage children to decide which interest classes to enroll. In this process, parents are to guide their children, so that children dare to meet the same thing next time, you can make your own decisions.
Teach children to learn to face failure correctly
In the face of all kinds of situations, there are always difficulties and setbacks. Because the child's social experience in the short term, when faced with difficulties, usually take refuge in the way, this time, parents need to instill the child, "the way is always more difficult than the" idea, to teach children to learn the correct face of failure.
As children are young, they may encounter some difficulties in life and study. If the child has difficulties, parents will arrange, so that children will rely on more and more strong.
On the contrary, parents teach their children the atmosphere and learn how to overcome them so as to enhance their ability to overcome difficulties. You can also give the child a demonstration of specific steps, so that children adhere to the task, so that after the child encountered the same situation, it will be dealt with.
Let the child learn to consult with his partner
To cultivate children's independence is to cultivate their ability to communicate independently and with others. The school's little buddy is the best person for a child to make friends. We should encourage children to learn to get along with people of the same age. When things happen, they can consult with their partners and let them find the ones they can discuss.
Specifically, parents should provide communication environment and opportunities for children, said the love of your school and love the other kids, to eliminate child anxiety, let the children love to go to school, if what has happened, but also can find other little friends to discuss solutions